Jordan Peterson: Finding Your Best Balance | Become Dangerous and Peaceful (MUST WATCH)

you don't want a factual description of.

every muscle twitch you want them to.

distill their experiences down into the.

gist which is the significance of the.

experience and the significance of the.

experience is roughly what you can.

derive from listening to the experience.

that will change the way that you look.

at the world and act in the world so.

it's valuable information and they can.

tell you a terrible story and then that.

can be valuable because that can tell.

you how not to look in the world look at.

the world and act in it or they can tell.

you a positive story you can derive.

benefit either way which is why we also.

like to go watch stories about horrible.

psychopathic thugs you know and and.

hopefully we're learning not to be like.

them although there are additional.

advantages in that you know someone you.

might be some say that someone who is.

incapable of cruelty is a higher moral.

being than someone who is capable of.

cruelty and I would say and this follows.

young as well that that's incorrect and.

it's dangerously incorrect because if.

you are not capable of cruelty you are.

absolutely a victim to anyone who is and.

so part of the reason that people go.

watch anti heroes and villains is.

because there's a part of them crying.

out for the incorporation of the monster.

within them which is what gives them.

strength of character and self-respect.

because it's impossible to respect.

yourself until you grow teeth and if you.

grow teeth and you realize that you're.

somewhat dangerous and or maybe somewhat.

seriously dangerous and then you might.

be more willing to demand that you treat.

yourself with respect and other people.

do the same thing and so that doesn't.

mean that being cruel is better than not.

being cruel what it means is that being.

able to be cruel and then not being.

cruel is better than not being able to.

be cruel because in the first case.

you're nothing but weak and naive and in.

the second case you're dangerous.

but you have it under control and you.

know a lot of martial arts concentrate.

on exactly that as part of their.

philosophy of training it's like we're.

not training you to fight we're training.

you to be peaceful and awake and avoid.

fights but if you happen to have to get.

in one and that I guess the philosophy.

also is is that if you're competent at.

fighting that actually decreases the.

probability that you're going to have to.

fight because when someone pushes you.

you'll be able to respond with.

confidence and with any luck and this is.

certainly the case with bullies with any.

lock a reasonable show of confidence.

which is very much equivalent to the.

show of dominance is going to be enough.

to make the bully back off and so the.

strength that you develop in your.

monstrousness is actually the best.

guarantee of peace and that's partly why.

Jung believed that it was necessary for.

people to integrate their shadow and he.

said that was a terrible thing for.

people to attempt because the human.

shadow mm which is all those things.

about yourself that you don't want to.

realize reaches all the way to hell and.

what he meant by that was it's through.

an analysis of your own shadow that you.

can come to understand why other people.

are capable and you as well of the sorts.

of terrible atrocities that characterize.

let's say the 20th century and without.

that understanding there's no.

possibility of bringing it under control.